Very Strange Realtime Shadows

I'm trying to do realtime lighting, and my shadows are acting very strange. When I project a spotlight out from the camera (like a flashlight in a first person game) my shadows show up as 3D skews of the objects, and I can actually clip through them if I move the camera in the right way... if I detach lights from the camera and just have them sit in one position, I don't seem to have this issue (cylinder to the right is just the model Im using for the flashlight... its attached to the camera):

• All objects have Cast Shadows set to "On"

• All objects have Receive Shadows checked

• All objects have Light Probes and Reflection Probes set to "Blend Probes"

• All objects have Motion Vectors set to "Per Object Motion"

• All objects have Lightmap Static unchecked

• All objects have Dynamic Occluded checked

• All lights have Mode set to "Realtime"

• All lights have Shadow Type set to "Soft Shadows"

• All lights have Realtime Shadow Strength set to 1

• All lights have Realtime Shadow Resolution set to "Very High Resolution"

• All lights have Realtime Shadow Bias set to 0 (changing this doesn't seem to effect the issue)

• All lights have Realtime Shadow Normal Bias set to 0 (changing this doesn't seem to effect the issue)

• All lights have Realtime Shadow Near Plane set to 0.1 (changing this doesn't seem to effect the issue)

• All lights have Draw Halo unchecked

• All lights have Render Mode set to "Auto"

• All lights have Culling Mask set to "Everything"

• Camera has Clear Flags set to "Solid Color"

• Camera has Background set to #000000

• Camera has Culling Mask set to "Everything"

• Camera has Projection set to "Perspective"

• Camera has Field of View set to 60

• Camera has Near Clipping Plane set to 0.3

• Camera has Far Clipping Plane set to 1000

• Camera has Viewport Rect set to 0, 0, 1, 1

• Camera has Depth set to 0

• Camera has Rendering Path set to Use Graphics Settings

• Camera has Occlusion Culling checked

• Camera has Allow HDR checked

• Camera has Allow MSAA checked

• Camera has Allow Dynamic Resolution unchecked

• Camera has Target Display set to "Display 1"

• In Player, Rendering Color Space set to "Linear"

• In Player, all Rendering Auto Graphics APIs checked (win, mac, lin)

• In Player, Rendering Static Batching checked

• In Player, Rendering Dynamic Batching checked

• In Player, Rendering GPU Skinning unchecked

• In Player, Rendering Graphics Job (Experimental)* unchecked

• In Player, Rendering Lightmap Encoding set to "High Quality"

• In Graphics, all Built-in Shader Settings are set to "Built-in shader"

• In Graphics, Shader Stripping Lightmap Modes is set to "Automatic"

• In Graphics, Shader Stripping Fog Mode is set to "Automatic"

• In Graphics, Shader Stripping Instancing Variants is set to "Strip Unused"

• In Graphics, Preloaded Shaders Size is set to 0

• In Lighting, Skybox Material is set to "Default-Skybox"

• In Lighting, Sun Source is set to "None (Light)"

• In Lighting, Environment Lighting Source is set to "Color"

• In Lighting, Environment Lighting Ambient Color is set to #000000

• In Lighting, Environment Lighting Ambient Mode is set to "Realtime" (and the dropdown box is greyed out, so I can't change it)

• In Lighting, Environment Reflections Source is set to "Custom"

• In Lighting, Environment Reflections Cubemap is set to "None (Cubemap)"

• In Lighting, Environment Reflections Compression is set to "Auto"

• In Lighting, Environment Reflections Intensity Multiplier is set to 0

• In Lighting, Environment Reflections Bounces is set to 1

• In Lighting, Realtime Global Illumination is checked

• In Lighting, Baked Global Illumination is unchecked

• In Lighting, Fog is unchecked