How to Stop Particle effects from overlapping via stenciling/shading

See pic related, Im basically trying to make my particles effects, in this case which are emited in a circle orevented from overallping, i thought this may be possible via shading/stenciling in which the partices have a material attached which makes them invisible if they come into contact with another material, currently i can do the opposite of this however the stencils i used to achieve this i dont currently understand, i have them linked bellow

the stencils work in the sense that both of them will make a sprite invisible in game, however if a sprite with Stencil 1 overlaps a sprite with Stencil 2, then the sprite with stencil 2 will appear visible while it is over it, what im trying to figure out is how i can make a stencil 3 which is visible but will turn invisible in the presence of stencil 1, hope that clears up what im trying to do

here are the stencil shaders

Shader "Custom/Stencil1" { Properties { _MainTex ("Base (RGB)", 2D) = "white" {} }

SubShader { Tags {"Queue"="Transparent+1" "IgnoreProjector"="True"} ZWrite Off AlphaTest Greater 0.5 ColorMask 0 ZTest Always

     Stencil {
                             Ref 1
                             Comp always
                             Pass replace
                     }
 
  
     Pass
     {
             CGPROGRAM
                     #pragma vertex vert
                     #pragma fragment frag
                  
                     #include "UnityCG.cginc"
 
                     struct appdata_t
                     {
                             float4 vertex : POSITION;
                             float2 texcoord : TEXCOORD0;
                     };
 
                     struct v2f
                     {
                             float4 vertex : SV_POSITION;
                             half2 texcoord : TEXCOORD0;
                     };
 
                     sampler2D _MainTex;
                     float4 _MainTex_ST;
                  
                     v2f vert (appdata_t v)
                     {
                             v2f o;
                             o.vertex = mul(UNITY_MATRIX_MVP, v.vertex);
                             o.texcoord = TRANSFORM_TEX(v.texcoord, _MainTex);
                             return o;
                     }
                  
                     fixed4 frag (v2f i) : COLOR
                     {
                             fixed4 col = tex2D(_MainTex, i.texcoord);
                             //if(col.a<0.1)discard;
                             return col;
                     }
             ENDCG
     }

}

}

Shader "Custom/stencil2" { Properties { _MainTex ("Base (RGB)", 2D) = "white" {} }

SubShader { Tags {"Queue"="Transparent+2" "IgnoreProjector"="True" "RenderType"="Transparent"} ZWrite Off Blend SrcAlpha OneMinusSrcAlpha

     Stencil {
                             Ref 1
                             Comp Equal
                     }
  
     Pass
     {
             CGPROGRAM
                     #pragma vertex vert
                     #pragma fragment frag
                  
                     #include "UnityCG.cginc"
 
                     struct appdata_t
                     {
                             float4 vertex : POSITION;
                             float2 texcoord : TEXCOORD0;
                     };
 
                     struct v2f
                     {
                             float4 vertex : SV_POSITION;
                             half2 texcoord : TEXCOORD0;
                     };
 
                     sampler2D _MainTex;
                     float4 _MainTex_ST;
                  
                     v2f vert (appdata_t v)
                     {
                             v2f o;
                             o.vertex = mul(UNITY_MATRIX_MVP, v.vertex);
                             o.texcoord = TRANSFORM_TEX(v.texcoord, _MainTex);
                             return o;
                     }
                  
                     fixed4 frag (v2f i) : COLOR
                     {
                             fixed4 col = tex2D(_MainTex, i.texcoord);
                             return col;
                     }
             ENDCG
     }

}

}